Breaking through the shadows: A story of resilience and hope

Monica Ango - Nigeria

Community Manager and Ambassador of WWO

Monica Ango, an ambassador of the World Women Observatory (WWO), has made it her mission to amplify the voices of women whose stories might otherwise go unheard. One such story is that of a Nigerian widow who endured years of hardship, abuse, and emotional turmoil within her own family a place that should have been her sanctuary. Through Monica’s dedication, this survivor’s journey is shared to inspire change, promote awareness, and strengthen WWO’s mission of advocating for women worldwide.  

A Childhood Lost to Responsibility

The survivor, Sofia (name changed for anonymity), was thrust into the role of caretaker far too early, burdened with responsibilities that no child should bear. As the firstborn in a traditional Nigerian home, she had a relatively normal childhood—until her parents’ separation shattered any illusion of security. With her mother forced to leave due to relentless abuse, Sofia became the de facto guardian of her younger siblings, navigating a life of servitude under her father’s strict and often violent control.  

The Struggles Within “Safe Walls”

At just 16 years old, Sofia took on a role far beyond her years. She managed household duties, cared for her siblings, and endured physical and emotional abuse from her father. She was denied friendships, restricted from socializing, and repeatedly punished for minor infractions. On multiple occasions, she suffered severe beatings—one that resulted in lasting vision impairment. Her father demanded she fulfill all responsibilities of a mother and wife, except conjugal ones, while stripping her of opportunities to pursue her education fully.

In her darkest days, Sofia contemplated escape, only to be reminded that leaving would brand her as a runaway—just like her mother. The psychological strain of being accused of carrying “evil spirits” and being blamed for household misfortunes wore heavily on her.  

Years of suffering led Sofia to develop deep distrust toward men. Even as suitors approached her, she resisted, fearing she would relive the horrors inflicted by her father. But when she met Kaltume, the man who would later become her husband, she slowly learned to trust again. Through his unwavering support and kindness, she was able to see that not all men mirrored her father’s cruelty.  

She immersed herself in meetings and community service initiatives, finding solace among those who understood her struggles. Eventually, she married Kaltume, an act that symbolized her breaking free from her past and embracing a future with hope.  

Monica’s role in amplifying the voices of women 

Monica Ango’s work with WWO brings such narratives to light, ensuring that the experiences of women like Sofia are not forgotten. Through her efforts, WWO continues to advocate for survivors of abuse, providing platforms for healing, empowerment, and meaningful action. Sofia’s story is not just one of survival—it is a testament to resilience, the power of solidarity, and the unwavering pursuit of justice for women everywhere.  

WWO’s mission, carried forward through Monica’s passion, remains a beacon of hope for countless women seeking freedom from oppression. This story stands as both a cautionary tale and a call to action—reminding the world that, despite unimaginable hardship, women have the strength to rise again.